Life, Law, and a Library

Dear Burnt-Out Parent,

I see you, and I want to acknowledge just how much you’re juggling right now. Feeling frustrated or annoyed with your kids doesn’t make you a bad parent—it makes you a human being who’s running on empty. Parenting is an incredibly demanding job, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed.

It’s important to remember that your feelings are valid. The constant demands, whining, arguing, noise, and mess can chip away at even the most patient person. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your kids, you should be more grateful, or that you’re failing them; it just means you’re in need of some self-care and a break.

Try to carve out small moments for yourself, even if it’s just a few minutes a day. Take a wellness break shift with your partner or a friend if you have one. It could be a cup of coffee in silence, a walk around the block, or a few pages of a book. These moments can help you recharge and gain a bit of perspective. You deserve that time to breathe and regroup.

Communicating openly with your family and friends about how you’re feeling can also make a big difference. Kids, even though they’re young, can often sense when things are off, and they might be more understanding than you expect. And don’t be afraid to ask for help, whether it’s from a partner, family member, or friend. Tell your kids you need some quiet time.

You’re doing the best you can, and that’s enough. Your love and effort are evident, even on the toughest days. Not enjoying parenting is okay. Hang in there, and be gentle with yourself. Give yourself grace. You’re stronger and more resilient than you know. Your kids love you. This is a season. You got this!